Are you an investment banker? Or do you have a different role at an investment bank?

Asked by Anonymous

An ever so glamourous position involving less quant modeling and more risk management than most IB folks. TL;DR I wear a bunch of suits and eat a bunch of Seamless takeout. #living 

what life advice would you give to someone just graduating??

Asked by Anonymous

Disclaimer: I’m still a fresh post-grad myself practically, so this list is more or less a work in progress at my end too. In between tragicomic losses of keys/dignity/sunglasses, however, I have managed to scrape together a few thoughts:

1.) Learn how to say “no.” Just “no.” No to bad friends, bad relationships, unfair bargains and bad ideas without explaining yourself; you do not owe people who treat you badly, make you uncomfortable, or exploit your time and energies an explanation. This goes triply for women especially, who are generally conditioned to be non-confrontational. This isn’t “don’t be polite.” This is “know how to decline and do just that—decline, because something isn’t for you, or because a path doesn’t lead to a destination you want to go to anymore.”

2.) Keep doing stuff. Keep making time. When you go into the working world, your social and free time collapse drastically. Making time for other things can start to feel like, well, work—meeting with friends takes commuting, trying new hobbies means time, money, energy. Make that time—that time is important, even if sometimes you don’t know it until after the fact. It’s like that old adage—nobody looks back on their deathbed and thinks “man, I should’ve spent more time in the office.” Not to mention your brain needs the exercise to keep from ossifying.

3.) Get that “adult stuff” down, even if it takes watching Youtube videos, reading how-to articles, or cringe de la cringe, asking your parents how to do it. You aren’t born knowing how to sear meat, iron a collared shirt efficiently, and do your taxes. Some people have been doing this stuff since they’re fifteen, and some people couldn’t tell you how to light the stove at twenty-five. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that you try and keep trying, and that every mistake makes you smarter. (And that you destroy a few silk shirts first just to really bring that point home. Rest in peace, blush colored cinched-sleeve blouse.)

4.) Know that at approximately no point will you have your shit together and that this is pretty much natural. And no, no one else does either really, so learn to take a step back from Facebook FOMO and Instagram envy. The better faster richer cooler race leads only to the bottom and is a natural but stupid waste of energy: you’re trying to match somebody’s crazily curated self PR with your live update 24/7 reality. Nobody ‘grams their 15 hours in the office, even if they snap the drinks that follow it with more coverage than most celebrity trials.

5.) Decide to be happy. Decide to be kind.  Take ownership of your decisions and make peace with the fact that sometimes they contradict each other. No Tumblr list or super rebloggable quote is going make you do these things, and yeah, sometimes you just want to reach out and throttle someone but! You are the steward of your own emotional state. What are you gonna do with that knowledge? 

What should men wear to the airport and on a plane especially if it's going to be a long trip?

Asked by Anonymous

The key to plane travel—especially long haul travel—is an outfit that a.) won’t wrinkle, crunch, or droop despite 12 hours in the hot seat and b.) and outfit that, after 12 hours in the hot seat, won’t make YOU wrinkle, crunch and droop. To wit: a long sleeve shirt, even to a hot destination, is a good bet, as plane air is desert dry and A/C’ed within an inch of its life even as your body naturally gets colder on overnight flights when you hit sleeping hours. (Something like a classic striped shirt is always a good bet, or a solid with rolled sleeves to break up the silhouette.) As for pants, pick a slim but relaxed fit in something forgivingly soft like chino, and on the shoes front, easy on easy offs like boat shoes will do you well. (Don’t try to be that guy trying to lace up and down at awkward points in the security line.)